Frequently Asked Questions
Birth Doula Questions
How will hiring you affect my partner’s role during the birth?
Your birth partner would be able to focus on you emotionally with a doula continuously there. A doula is trained in birth and assures him that everything is going as it should. Nurses come and go every few hours. Doctors are there usually at the last moment. A doula is with you throughout.
This also means you never feel alone (which mothers can often do during labour) when your birth partner wants to use the bathroom or have a breather.
Most people find that mothers are more cooperative with doulas than their own partners. Sometimes, this takes the pressure off their partners!
Doulas are hippies and inferior to medical staff whose work is backed by science. Why should I believe anything you say?
Contrary to belief, our work is backed by science. Nature is science. We also work based on what the statistics and studies say. For that reason, I will link to credible sources for your assurance.
Doulas are more likely to condone what is natural because it is best for the parents, the mother and babies. (The future of our world!) We work with the natural occurring hormones in a birthing mother and use tried and tested natural comforts to help a mother and her baby do what nature intended. This empowers them both for life!
I do believe there is a place for medical intervention. There are cases where the health of the baby and the mother are at great risk and the benefit of medical intervention is greater. Routine medical intervention however, is likely to be harmful to your baby and you.
The physiological damage is most cited however the biggest cost in my opinion is the health of the baby, trauma in the nervous system (which is most likely even though nothing is seen outwardly), postnatal depression (which is on the rise strangely due to strong anesthesia in c-sections, fluctuating hormones and pain post childbirth.) and bonding which is detrimental to the security of the baby.
What is the difference between hiring you as my doula and going for your hypnobirthing classes?
As a doula, I will go through your birth plan and support you accordingly. I will provide you with the comforts and information as we go along. If you had gone through hypnobirthing education, I would use your anchors and the words I say to you will remind you of what you know and how to react accordingly. I will not be providing birth education or hypnobirthing education as a doula.
As a Hypnobirthing educator, I will spend 5 days over 5 weeks with you to educate and practice the skills of hypnosis for a pleasant birth. With these skills, you can help yourself relax with or without anyone else (though it is always better WITH - for security and support). You will learn so much about birth beforehand that will give you confidence about making certain decisions instead of stressing about whose word to take when the time came.
Do you perform any physical examinations?
No. I am not medically trained and as a doula, I am not permitted to perform any medical examinations. That is for the nurses and doctors to do.